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21-09.-2004, 04:16 PM
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Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: San Diego, CA
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The Supportive Husband
It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to criticize.
Let me relate how I handle this situation. When I got laid off from my consulting job and took "early retirement" in April, it became necessary for Terrie to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we need. It was shortly after she started working that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper. I try instead to tell her to take her time and just wake me when she finally does get supper on the table. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren't cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this advice, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed. Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Our washer and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry by the next evening, I am willing to overlook it. Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday lodge meeting, or the Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club, or the Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a little more time to do some of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dogs, vacuuming or dusting. Also, if I have a really good day of fishing, this allows her to gut and scale the fish at a more leisurely pace. Terrie is starting to complain a little occasionally. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch break. In spite of her complaining, I continue to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean. When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try to be supportive when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a little while. I tell her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I fall asleep. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Terrie on a daily basis. I'm not saying the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women can become as they get older. However, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing this was worthwhile. Signed, Sam NOTE: Sam's funeral was on Saturday, September 13th. Terrie was acquitted on Monday, September 15th. |
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